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Please tell me if I’m wrong? Tell me if I’m being too judgmental about this crap I’m about to bring up.

It’s just that I hate people’s laziness!!!! urgh!!

I’m not talking about the normal kind of laziness that we all have once in a while…or maybe most of the time! I’m talking about the type of laziness from someone who does completely nothing! I mean as students, we say we’re lazy.
However, we’re still in school right? We’re still trying to get something done with our lives. So, it doesn’t really fulfill the meaning of the type of laziness I’m referring to.

I just hate seeing people complain about how they are not satisfied with their lives, but don’t do anything about it. I mean does sitting on a couch seriously get you anywhere? Does exercising your fingers by flipping through the channels change anything to make your life more desirable? I mean come on! If you think so, then fine. I just don’t want to hear any complaints about it. Live your life the way you want to live it, just don’t bring others down with you.

I mean you don’t even have to prove much. Just get off your ass and do something. It doesn’t matter how small it is. Geesh.

I’m not trying to lecture or anything. I don’t want to tell anyone how to live their life. I don’t have the authority to do that, and even if I did I won’t. No one can change for anyone. You change for yourself, and yourself only. No one else. If you can’t change to better yourself, how can you do it for someone else?

So, no matter how many times someone tells me to tell that certain person to change. I will never do it. Sure, I will provide support. But I can’t do much. It’s that person’s responsibility to improve him/herself. That person will never change for anyone, unless they’re willing to do it for themselves.

Let’s look at this for a minute. Let’s say that a person has changed for the better because of you. I mean that’s great! It’s a start. But there’s a relapse. You happen to leave his/her life. What will be the result of that? It’s more likely that a person will go back to his/her normal, old self, because the person they changed for no longer motivates them to become a better person. If a person changes for they’re ownself, they have no one else to rely on during this transition. It’s like building that foundation in their life. They build by themeselves with their own hardships and effort. They make themselves strong without the help of anyone that can easily tear it down. Changing for yourself and not for others can make you a better person in the long run.

Now, I’m not saying that you can’t possibly use people in your life to help you change. Of course not. You can definitely find those people and use them as inspiration to help you to become more determined and motivated. But that’s as far as what those people can do for you. Just use them as inspiration. Don’t rely on the fact that you’re changing for them. No. You can change for yourself and it’s a better outcome.

Sometimes, it’s hopeless to help out. Sometimes it’s frustrating trying to get someone like that back on the right track. Sometimes, it’s just too painful to see another life go to waste and seeing others going down with them.